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I'm not sure how long I can keep illustrating these with Peep Show images, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it eh?  If you missed the first part of this mini-series (of sorts) then feel free to catch up

So yesterday was week one of six on the StressControl course (it's written like that on purpose - it's a course used worldwide so it's more of a trademark than anything else).  If everyone's stress and anxiety manifested itself in the same way as mine, and they'd all have gotten there 20 minutes early and we'd have been done and dusted in plenty of time.  But as they quite reasonably pointed out, we're all people and we're all different. And so a few people turned up 20 minutes late.

I wasn't sure what to expect, so gave myself a small tick for having confidently walked in the door.

There should have been 35 people booked on this six week course.  Twenty people turned up, and four of those were people who'd come along to provide moral support to someone attending the course.  I wasn't the youngest person there, but even at 38 I was one of the younger few which surprised me a little.  It was reassuring that I wasn't the only one who needs this kind of support, and important (like it is for diabetes) to remember that my perspective isn't the only perspective.  I think in this world of politics, health and everything else, we forget the huge spectrum of grey that sits between black and white.   That being said, there was some encouragement to be a little selfish (or to use their wording, 'think more about what's important to you and how you feel').

The sessions are very classroom oriented - two facilitators each stood delivering half the content each from the front, with nobody else saying anything (apart from in the brief coffee break).  I'd expected that - it had been made clear when signing up (and reiterated at the start) that this wasn't any kind of group intervention and nobody would be sharing personal experiences.  It was still odd to sit in silence and just listen and temper that desire to fidget, write or check my phone (all general signs of some anxiety if you're interested).

The sessions themselves are broadly broken into two sections - Information and Coping Skills.  Session was is a little different as it has a lot more of the introductory elements, but I'm expecting from next week we'll have around 40 minutes 'theory' time for a cuppa and then 40 minutes learning different practical skills or techniques.

There's 'homework' though it's all optional and is referred to as 'things to look at in between sessions'.  I've not got into it yet, but from just listening (and having a quick skim through the handbook) it was reassuring to know I have a couple of the techniques in the bank already.  A word on the handbook... it's about 170 bound A4 pages so it's very hefty.

It's supposed to be your go-to set of info both during and after the course and it was refreshing to see that whilst the info covered on the slides is replicated to some extent, there's more context and space for you to think about your own circumstances in there too.

There were two main messages that were reiterated a few times.  One is that the course is really about providing you the tools to 'be your own therapist'.  I completely get the idea and in principle I think it should work well.  Having Type 1 is really about being your own doctor (to some extent) and so in the same way that DAFNE provided skills for that, I'm hoping IAPT will provide skills for this.  My only reservation is about how easy it'll be to manage myself out of these sorts of situations.  But I'm not prejudging it and we'll see how we go.

The other message was 'StressControl in nine words'.  If we remember nothing else, it should be this - which is great except I keep forgetting the middle three:

Face your fears - this isn't about holding spiders on your hand or going bungee jumping - it's more about acknowledging the things that can cause you stress or anxiety and being able to face up to them and use the coping skills to overcome them

Be more active - does what it says on the tin really, and acknowledges that stress and anxiety can cause you to withdraw from being active, which has a compounding effect as being active can help reduce feelings of stress 

Boost your wellbeing - understand the whole picture about yourself, thinking about how your body, thoughts, actions and sleep all interlink to impact your wellbeing

So I think that about sums up the first session.  The title of this post refers to the first four steps (of 10) that we covered in some manner yesterday,  There's a lot of additional thinking and reading to do to be fully up to speed.  I might do a shorter post in the interim that sets out how some of that looks for me (time allowing) and report back on session two next week.


Diabetes UK are running a hugely important campaign about improving the provision of and access to a variety of emotional support services. People with diabetes are twice as likely to suffer from burnout or difficulties with their own mental health compared to those without the condition. Some estimates suggest that one in ten people with diabetes are clinically depressed. You can read more about the vital It's Missing campaign by following the link. My story is just my story. If you need to talk to someone about how diabetes is making you feel, you can ring the Diabetes UK Helpline on 0345 123 2399 or you can ring Samaritans 24 hours a day on 116 123